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Very much agree. The stories we tell ourselves determine everything—not just what we think we're capable of but also what we focus on. I think for me (and maybe others) if I fail because a problem is hard, the full inner thought continues with "...and I'm not good enough to overcome how hard this problem is."

Another thing about hard problems is that we focus so much on wanting to have done the hard thing and gotten to the other side of things that when it comes time to put in work—which often looks like showing up consistently even as we are imperfect/uncertain—we make ourselves feel awful. Somehow we've convinced ourselves that if we were likely to succeed it would just be naturally easy or we'd have certainty of the outcome from the very beginning.

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